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I don't think my heart or sanity could take infantry! He is scheduled to leave the day after our eight-month anniversary, and then he will be stationed somewhere for six whole years. Do you have any tips for a young woman struggling to find peace with the fact that she won't see the love of her life very often for six years? -- Scared and Confused Dear Scared and Confused, I know all of this is very new to you, and you don't know what to expect.
My first bit of advice is to remember that this is also new to your boyfriend, and he won't always have answers for you. Don't perceive his unknowing as him withholding information.
I discovered by accident he had been using a dating site, and in the last two months had been winking and flirting with women on it. And he has made me feel like I’m such an awful person. (That’s why “accident” is in quotes.) But the problem here, is once you procure information in a covert fashion it’s very difficult to do much with it.
I didn’t say anything for a couple of days because I was in shock and wanted to be calm when I discussed it with him. But then he sent me an odd text saying he loves me. Once you tell him how you discovered the information he’ll immediately shut down and feel that you violated the trust of your relationship. However, even though you “accidentally” discovered the information, now that you have it, it trumps any argument he can raise.
It’s a dilemma that’s more common than you think when online dating turns into an offline relationship.
The funny thing about being in a relationship when you’ve been single for so long is that you go into it having all these preconceived ideas on how you would react to certain dating situations, and you prejudge your future relationships based on your past ones.
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