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She is living with an atheist, and she now plans to marry him. She has gone to college, and she has become an atheist.” And I said, “Why are you whispering? Throughout the Bible, you have family after family after family—it’s hard for me to think of a family in the scripture that doesn’t have a prodigal somewhere in the family. And sometimes you have someone who is just going through a time of questioning, a time of confusion. I would also say that I understand why the mom is concerned about this, because the scripture tells us that a believer is not to marry an unbeliever.Should I allow my other daughter to be in the wedding as a bridesmaid? ” And she said, “I don’t want anyone to overhear me, because then they will know that I am the mom of that atheist girl.” And as I started talking to her it became clear, she thought somehow that that would make people think that she has done something shameful in her own parenting. So we don’t say that because a child is going through some rebellion that that means that the parents are deficient. And also we need to recognize that parents love their children, and families are to stay together, and we are to maintain those avenues of connection with our children as much as possible and to provide a means for those prodigals to come home. We should not be unequally yoked, as the Apostle Paul puts it. Instead you have a professing unbeliever marrying a professing unbeliever.Each time we felt these differences, the weight of disillusionment became heavier.Sure, we were both college-educated Americans, but the people in my community got married early — like, ring-by-senior-year-of-college early — and then proceeded to have three kids before Adam’s friends could finish their doctoral dissertations.He tried to explain to me that maybe, just maybe, our differences had more to do with rhetoric and semantics than actual value disparities, but I couldn’t accept that. As we passed milestones in our relationship and continued to circle the major issues dividing us, other problems arose — namely, our different cultural expectations.
But as a civil ordinance, getting married, I would go.Now, if you have some reason to think that this man is harmful or abusive or dangerous, then no, you put your foot down, and you go to the matt for this.But if your only problem with him is that he’s an atheist, I would go.And I also would just really encourage all of those parents out there who are going through a situation with your children—parents of atheist children; parents of agnostic children; parents of children who are going through times of moral rebellion, not just intellectual confusion or questioning or whatever—don’t be ashamed of your kids. This is not about you; this is about loving the children God has given to you.Dating someone from a different faith can be incredibly rewarding or a disaster of biblical proportions. After dedicating six years to Evangelical Christianity, at 24, I decided to venture into the "real world." I landed on the densely populated isle of O’ahu, Hawaii, where I met a striking doctor-in-training with bone-dry humor, a motorcycle, and a Fu Manchu mustache (it was Movember).