Dating a friends ex husband
If you're gay, you will almost inevitably date a friend's ex at some point.Queer communities are often small and insular, and once you've found one, you tend to hold on to it for dear life." If the breakup was amicable and now she’s happily married to another guy with three kids, a good friend would want the same happiness for you—even if it’s with someone she used to sleep with.If you all still hang out on weekends, even more of a reason to give it a go.When she found out, she went ballistic," says Treva S., an actual women who tried to be all sneaky about it."Talk about a disaster—not only did I lose a good girlfriend over it, the ex ended up dumping me!They dated casually for a few weeks before they split up and we got together, and three years later the same friend gave one of the readings at our wedding. It's common to assume that anything shared with you is by default shared with your partner as well; however, your friend might be much less comfortable speaking to you in confidence if she thought the details of her personal life were going to be relayed to someone who used to share her toothbrush.
“If your friend isn’t over it and is still actively requiring your support, it’s not very ethical to go in," says Dr. In the world of Bumble and Tinder, relationships move fast.
If you’re going to do it, don’t drag the third party into it!
" If the romantic relationship is strong enough to handle the repercussions, it’s not wrong to pick your future husband over your college roommate.
Queers don't tend to expect our dates to come into our lives completely free of prior complication.
We know our backstories will be tangled and intertwined.