Dating and breakups
My relationship of almost four years ended very recently.
What has helped me get through it is talking to about it.
When it ended, I was devastated at first (again, stupid) but after spending that summer focusing on me — traveling, spending tons of time with friends and family — I ended up being really grateful for the breakup.
Everything is a learning experience, and you grow from everything. My relationship ended due to it being long-distance.
Now it’s just a matter of figuring out my new routine as a single person.
I had a shitty, 3.5-year relationship with an emotionally abusive heroin addict (I was young and stupid).
I told him explicitly that he had hurt me, and his texts just reminded me of that pain and shame and all of that.
He apologized for everything and agreed to stay out of my life.
In my case, I took the mentality that I needed to learn from the experience to better myself.Spending time traveling and surrounding myself with friends and family and exciting experiences helped. Things that have helped me are getting a dog, going out and trying new things (a new dance class), meeting more people, and taking on new creative projects to throw my energy into.(Of course, I did this after the sadness/crying phase ended, which took a few months.) After five months of dating someone who seemed (truthfully) not that into me, he broke up with me over the phone. I exclusively listened to Demi Lovato’s “Sorry Not Sorry” all day, every day, at work.My ex knew he messed up by not treating me as well as he should have.After the breakup he’d text me sporadically, in a friendly manner, and one day — some six months after we broke up — I told him he needed to stop texting me.