Dating and cheating
She prefers the gym after a stressful workday -- not the kitchen. "What makes the difference is whether they're in sync or not.
When that's not resolved, it's likely someone will be frustrated," says Kaplan.
"There may not be a cold war, but there will be tension." Their parents' bad relationship teaches kids negative patterns -- even if they don't learn about an affair, she adds.
"If there is disrespect or no passion or if parents don't communicate effectively, it increases the chances kids drawn to repeat that pattern.
For more insights, we asked Web MD readers about their indiscretions.
Here's what some shared: "My ex-wife cheated and left me for her boss," writes one male. To be fair, I didn't pay her enough attention or affection.
This is about problems in your marriage, what you're not getting from your marriage." "Having an affair always has a negative affect on a marriage," says Kaslow. But it doesn't always mean they have to end the relationship. "Those couples have a real responsibility to look at their problems, to look at what they're not getting in the marriage.
Can't say I had a miserable time but now that I have kids, I wouldn't do it again. "She doesn't feel valued, respected, she's not treated nicely, she feels taken for granted.
I am not proud of it, but I got married young and hubby wasn't paying any attention to me. and I wanted a real relationship." For some cheating wives, the affair is truly all about sex, says Nadine Kaslow, Ph D, a family counselor and psychologist at Emory University School of Medicine. When you wait to get married when you're older and more mature, you make a better choice of the appropriate person, and you may be more engaged in the relationship." Also, not all affairs are flings, she points out.
I worked 12-hour days to come home every night to be by myself. "When they were dating, there was passion, they want that passion back. "Sometimes people develop an emotional connection, an emotional affair, rather than something sexual." For most women, an inattentive husband is indeed the biggest problem.
"If couples don't actively work on their relationship, then they drift apart. "Unfortunately, couples often get stuck in a pattern ...
a certain problem keeps coming up, and they are unable to solve it.