If you want a casual sexual relationship, that’s fine.
If you want to get married as soon as possible, that’s fine too.
If you are dating a Chinese, this will be an issue, because they will feel the downward pressure from everyone above them in the generational line.
Even if a girl or guy feels more independent and wants to date whoever they want, they will almost always take these family ideas into consideration, even if only on a subconscious level.
These criticisms are 1) patronizing to the women who date foreign guys 2) slightly xenophobic and 3) not entirely unfounded.Source: Keep in mind that these are all generalities, only based on my personal experiences.As such, perhaps not everything I say in the following paragraphs will adhere to every person, Chinese or foreign.You shouldn’t have to feel bad if you are two consenting adults who understand the situation, whatever it may be.The thing is though, that many times people don’tproperly understand the situation here and aren’t honest with each other, and that’s where hurt feelings and stereotypes start flowing into the discussion.
When two Chinese go on a first date, especially dates organized by their mothers or a coven of plotting ayis, it can be a fairly serious affair, even with children/families/marriage discussed in some cases. However, at least in America, we will go on dates with people we hardly even know/like for something interesting to do, a chance at an actual future together, and—this is important—the potential for a mutually-agreed upon sexual relationship.