Dating someone with 3 kids
I had to be an adult and remember that it didn’t work out for a reason.She calls and texts him regularly but I keep in mind it’s for the children.I had to be very patient and let him feel those things.He wasn’t missing his ex in particular, just the moments they shared as a family.I remember fairly early in our relationship, we were at dinner and out of nowhere his demeanor completely changed from happy to sad.He told me that he missed going out to dinner as a family.I honestly found this extremely tough and had to check my jealousy at the door.There were constant reminders of her, not only in the kids themselves but in memories, photos, and so on.
Still, here’s what I wish I’d known about dating a dad before I started: The kids will always come first. If one of them got sick or he needed to be there for them in some way, our life was put on hold.
I still wanted them to respect me, so if it was something I could answer without feeling like I was overstepping, I would, but everything else I directed to their parents.
It can show you a side of love that you may never have known existed.
Just like it was new to me to have kids in my life, having another woman in his and his children’s lives was new to him, too.
I wanted him to know that I was supportive of his little family. Whether it’s an ex-wife, ex-girlfriend or ex-one-night stand, there will be another woman in the picture ALWAYS.
I let them decide how they wanted to get to know me and it developed naturally the more we interacted.