Dating tips for women from a man
So, through the comedy of follies that is my dating life, I’ve pieced together my own tips, tricks, and “dating rules,” adapted from the horrific advice I’ve culled from the internet. And because of that, I’m telling you from the jump that these tips are not meant to be prescriptive to anyone but myself. These are the rules living by from now on, whether they work for other people or not. After being raised on a steady diet of Disney movies, I expected to meet someone and fall passionately in love — but wound up collapsing under the pressures of modern dating.My hope is that, in reading these, you’ll get a little introspective, and maybe come up with your own tips and tricks. Luckily, I eventually realized that there's no "right" way to date, and that I need to find happiness within myself, no partner needed.I probably don’t need to tell you this, but there’s a lot of shitty dating advice out there.Plenty of women’s magazines and websites (like, admittedly, the one you’re on right now) make their nut doling out anecdotes and tips that single women in desperate need of a clue will cling to.Most of the time, the advice is written by people who’ve found partners and can now condescend to tell you exactly what to do to be as blissfully paired as they are (or, at least, that’s what it feels like).
The Dutch tend to believe it is better to be honest than mislead someone.It’s Not You is where I write to calm the voices in my head — and hear from all of you.Follow me on Twitter, on Instagram, or email me at [email protected] Dutch love efficiency and leading someone on can be a waste of everybody’s time.You can find that both Dutch men and women cut out flirting and small-talk in favour of simply stating one’s desire or intentions.
It’s something that so many people do — whether they’re in a relationship or not — and my guess is that it might have something to do with a need to feel in control.